One of the important qualities I have desired or that I look out for in a 'potential somebody' is his financial standing.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not a gold-digger and there are other certain things that supercede the health of his bank balance but as a girl who does not want to 'suffer and no dey beg for bread' (in the tune of that popular praise song :-), I wanted to be sure that the man I pledged my life to could at least provide me with a
very good measure of comfort.
It was really really important to me. Infact if I was being honest, I would have wanted a guy who could sufficiently take full care of me and many others, with my contribution being a mere bonus. I wanted to live in his lovely house if possible and travel the world with him! It would be great of he had a solid pedigree too, so that I would know that the money had 'backing. haha iLaugh.
It's great and inspiring to hear stories of how a couple started from scratch and built together and I admire them... but let me not lie, I was not too sure I wanted to do any 'building' with anybody.. I don build for my life tire, let me enjoy plix! lol + when I consider the number of years of potential building, I felt that I would rather spend that time in the South of France or on a Caribbean Cruise :-)
As the thought crossed my mind in church (yup, even in there, I have random thoughts hehe).. A thought came to my mind and I imagined. "What if YOU had the money?" "Why are you so particular about the guy's potential to be very successful even above yours? (and it was not because I was being selfless)"
The thing is that in looking for the next big successful man to spouse up, sometimes, I forget that despite being a lady (Gosh! I'm sexist to myself), I actually have the potential to be great and extremely successful!
Why put all that pressure on a poor human being like me when we've been called to the same inheritance in Jesus Christ - male or female. Yes, I want a very comfortable life, but I choose no longer to look up to a man to provide that for me, I choose to look up to THE One who makes rich and prospers.
Now, instead of dreaming of being the very accomplished wife of a very accomplished wealthy man, I can begin to imagine me being successful, building an empire, championing causes by God's grace.
It also helps to see/read about visible women who have achieved so many things! That's why I love Ms JS Bass series on female role models! It inspires me, it helps me know it's possible.
As a woman, you have so much potential in you! And the extent of your greatness should not be determined by a man. Jesus did not die for that :-)
Celebrating all women achievers.. and men too! God bless your huzzle..