I FINALLY watched the Temptation movie by Tyler Perry last night!
*DISCLAIMER* - Spoiler Alert (Please if you haven't watched the movie, I talk about some things that happened in it)
I believe it's a movie that has a message for different people in different ways depending on what 'demons' you're facing.
Many parts of the movie made me really sad for Judith (the lead character). Many times, when it has to do with marriage/relationships, I must say that a lot of emphasis is put on how a woman/wife must continue to make an effort long after the initial buzz of the relationship in order to keep her man from straying.
Learn to spice up the relationship! Keep the romance alive, don't wear hairnets (you have to read this POST on www.naijahusband.com - beautiful!), make sure dinner is ready before he gets home, do your nails, maintain excellent personal hygiene, don't let sex be boring, don't wear boring nighties etc etc etc.. In fact, I have taken sooo many notes I have an encyclopaedia of information on how to 'keep the fire of romance burning vigorously for my man in my home'.
Arguably (I stand to be corrected), I don't think a lot of our brothers are being informed on how to keep their woman from straying.
I believe very strongly that one of the biggest needs of a woman in a relationship is security. This includes security in that fact that you still love her as much as you did when you first met, that she actually made the right decision in choosing to be with you (yes, we think about that too), that you still love her enough to make an effort - dress well, look sharp! (yes, we have our egos too and we want to proudly show you off to our girlfriends and sometimes exes lol), that you can still give us as much attention to keep us going (let me shout it loud - Women loveee attention, many of us love quality time, we also like affirmation.... "Baby I love you", "Baby, you can do it", "Baby, I will support you").. It matters a LOT to us too! Remember birthdays and important days.
When you stop doing all these things, you make other men who do it seem attractive. Please help us help you.. Be our man. Be the man we fell in love with. Make an effort. Shave. Use deodorant. Have a shower. Don't let that game outshine us. Listen to us when we dream (cause women love to dream + share it with our significant other). Don't stop dreaming yourself (we are natural nurturers so we gat to work with something - I dare say no woman wants a layabout). Act like the head, don't wait for us to keep doing the pushing. Surprise us once in a while. Remember the things you used to do when you were 'toasting' us? Do it again, and do it more!
It's not only 'bad' girls or 'ungrateful' girls who are tempted to or actually cheat, lonely women do, emotionally-deprived women do too, Christian girls who are bored and ignored do... (*disclaimer* it doesn't excuse it though*)
Lead us not into temptation we pray.
PS, I think he should have forgiven her and stayed. For me, that's the evidence of 'true' love *mythoughts*